Loneliness

The fear of loneliness is one of the worst fears. Man is one being so much plagued by this fear. And loneliness feeds on fear. Fear of it makes it more powerful. Men do everything possible to keep themselves away from this ghost – they make friends, marry, have children, remarry, form clubs, drink, abuse drugs and try what not. It is a virtual devil which curbs men of their thinking power, creative capacity, their productivity and sucks out all energy. It makes one feel powerless and defeated. Sometimes men set out to oust the devil once and for all, go to any extent for the sake, lose their individuality, lose their personality only finally to find out that the ghost has returned with great vengeance. Sometimes, why most times, the enemy seems to be better than the deeds we do to get rid of him. An unfitting company makes you feel lonelier than you are alone.

The deeds we do to keep ourself away loneliness seem to fail and all the more,torment us to keep us busier than fearing loneliness. So what is the way? The most efficient way seems to be to befriend the enemy. Ya...to befriend loneliness. To enjoy being alone. Once you start enjoying it, it is no more called loneliness, it is called aloneness. Aloneness is a state of mind which the mind thoroughly enjoys. You contemplate, you learn to be yourself, you derive pleasure in it, you become creative, you explore what you enjoy the most, you improve.

After all, aloneness is the most mature state of your mind. Your mind is not dependent on anything else for happiness, it is happy by itself. Then comes the state of neither being happy nor being sad. The state of evenness of mind. But to start with, you have to enjoy being alone. If you enjoy that, most troubles, external and internal would slowly start vanishing.

Aum tat sat.