Life is peculiar in the same ways as it is simple. I see teenagers here. They romance publicly in pools, at 12 and 13 wear skimpiest outfits and pose as adults,smoke, do all the stuff an adult would do. This urge to grow out to an adult is present during the teen ages. Nothing is left for adulthood. Everything is tried. Th worst thing here is teenagers make decisions for themselves.One reason may be parents are busy themselves finding new partners or trying to hold to old ones. The other reason may be moral laws are not so strong as in Indian society.
In India, a teenager cant smoke in public. It would look awkward. A teenager cant kiss his girlfriend(who is in 7th class) on the road. There is a small fear still of doing socially unacceptable things. Then comes the role of the parents. The parents in India never think that their responsibility is over until they had married their kid off whether it's a boy or a girl. So we are answerable to them always. It is a lot of commitment and lot of responsibility to raise a kid in India. here I see parents keep baby sitters in the house and holiday in a foreign country for a coupla weeks. Is it possible in india? even if you to the next street you would carry your child.
Refined, civilised - this is how this society is described. The degustation dinner may be one of the refined things I find here. I am unable to find reasons to call this society more civilised because the ways for higher happiness or peace are never being thought. Material pleasures rule the world. A society addicted to material pleasures - bigger homes, better cars, newer holiday places,costly dresses and costly restaurants. the cycle of desire and pain in this materialism makes me feel there is no much reason to think that this scoiety is more refined. the evidence is the amount of psychiatric illnesses in the society.
One other point comes to light here. Man cant be happy onlt if he has better living, good food and good clothing.he needs spiritual support. Spirituality for what ever it means in India is a recent fashion of the rich middle class.
the entertainment spirituality gives to these people amuses them. Following a spiritual guru is a trend.but spirituality in its true sense has not gone to the urban slums or to the poor villagers. Most of the sadness of the state is concentrated in these places. Spiritual gurus hesitate to reach to these marginalised people as they find no gain in it. These are the real people in need of spiritual advice. If they remain happy, crime in the society would go down. If craving comes down, crime rates would proportionally decrease. Genuine spiritual masters have to reach out to the marginalized sections of the society for developing their mind. That involves lot of courage and patience.But success will be achieved.
I remember myself being a teenager being so angry at my parents when they opposed my decisions and had always THOUGHT ONE DAY i WOULD GROW AND NO ONE WOULD BE THERE TO CONTROL ME. everyone would have had such thoughts in their teen ages. It is common in this age to think like this. You oppose parents for whatever they tell you. the urge to act in an adultly manner is present all the time.
it is one of the beauties of adolescence.
Suddenly after growing old, becoming an adult I feel it was better as an adoloscent. even better a s a child under care of some one. the commitment of being a responsible adult is huge. You start felling " ahha! I was happier during my school days! beeter i grow younger again"
Parenting an adoloscent is a sensitive subject in which many are not experts.
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